The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About: Finding the Right Therapist

The process itself can feel discouraging and when you're already feeling vulnerable, that's the last thing you need

Therapy is hard. No one actually wants to start therapy. More often than not, the decision comes from a place of desperation, crisis, or that sinking feeling that you just can't keep going like this. It’s usually the last resort, not the first.

And then, in the middle of all that, you’re expected to find a "good" therapist. Someone you feel who actually "gets it". The one who can understand what you're going through, rather than feeling like you’re just another checkbox on their schedule. Maybe you’re already feeling the strain of trying to convince your partner or spouse to go with you, and now you have to wade through directories, bios, and professional jargon to figure out who might actually be a good fit.

It’s overwhelming.

You might find someone whose bio resonates, who seems to speak your language, only to discover they have a six-month waitlist. Or you book a session, hoping for the best, only to leave feeling like it wasn’t the right fit at all. The process itself can feel discouraging, and when you’re already feeling vulnerable, that’s the last thing you need.

Finding the right therapist shouldn’t be another source of stress.

This is the very reason why at Norwood Counselling, I structured my schedule to allow for complimentary phone or video consultations before any commitment is made. No pressure, no paperwork—just a chance to talk. To ask questions. To get a feel for whether my approach aligns with what you need.

Because here’s the thing: therapy is most effective when you feel comfortable, understood, and safe. If we’re not the right fit, I’ll tell you. I’ll help you figure out what would be a better fit. The goal isn’t just to get you into therapy; it’s to get you into therapy that actually helps, whether it's at Norwood or with another colleague in the community. I am happy to make recommendations.

If you’ve been putting off reaching out because the process feels too daunting, I encourage you to start small. Send an email, book a call—whatever feels manageable. You don’t have to figure it all out at once, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Finding the right therapist is hard. But it shouldn’t be impossible.